Ask your children what they want to do
By Dr. Anthony Policastro
One of my 10 grandchildren turned 18 in February. She spent her high school years on the varsity cheerleading team, however, before high school she was involved in other activities including dance, voice and piano. At the time she shared with me her dislike for piano. I asked her why she did it if she did not like it. She told me because her paternal grandmother told her she had to. Then high school appeared and she gladly gave it up for cheerleading. That kind of thing makes me wonder how often children are put into activities they do not like. For one reason or another, children feel they cannot talk to their parents about it so they put up with something they do not like for extended periods of time. This is one of the underlying themes of the Broadway play, "School of Rock." The children in the band have parents who think playing in a band is beneath their child. They are sending their children to a private school to get a "real" music education in classical music. One of the songs in the play, If Only You Would Listen, reflects this concept. I encourage you to look up the song on You Tube. Search for "If Only You Would Listen - School of Rock (Cover)." The lyrics go: "I've got something to say if only you would listen." We need to ask ourselves how often we really listen to our children's thoughts. Most conversations center on schedules or take place between times on electronics. They tend to be one way from adult to child. The children in the play are about 10 years of age. We sometimes forget that children this age have feelings. They are very observant. They want parental approval. For that reason, they are not likely to tell their parents they dislike something if they think their parents will be angry with them. Parents and grandparents need to realize this. We need to engage in real conversations. I encourage people to spend time focusing on listening. A good place to start might be with the You Tube video I described above. Parents can watch it first and then they can watch it with their children. They can then ask their children if they have something to say. The initial answer will likely be "no," however, this offers a great opportunity to open the doors of communication that are often not present. We should not expect our children to have to do something like playing the piano if it does not really benefit them. The only way to know that is to ask them.
Free EKG screening for students All area students ages 8-23 are invited to the 19th Free EKG Screening, Heart in the Game, at the Delmar Fire Hall, 301 E. Grove St., Delmar, on Saturday, Aug. 4 from 8 a.m. to 1 p.m. Walk-ins are welcome. This event is held in honor of the late Casey Alex Lynch. Sponsored by Delmar Pop Warner and Delmar Little League, this community event features an EKG, a simple, 5 minute non-invasive test to measure heart health. Screening results will be evaluated by Nemours pediatric cardiologists. The following will also be available: Matthew Krug Foundation - AED's; NAMIDE.org (mental health); Med Express blood pressure testing; Division of Social Services/DHSS; Delmar Pop Warner - proper sizing of football equipment; DE Emergency Medical Services - Stop the Bleed; Hands Only CPR/AED; atTack Addiction;
Paws for People; heat and hydration information and National Kidney Foundation. Parental permission slips are available online at www.HeartInTheGame.org, through Dorie Simpler of Delmar Pop Warner and the day of the event.
Bariatric support groups Nanticoke Weight Loss & General Surgery hosts free bariatric support groups three times a month at the Nanticoke Training Center located within the Miller Building at 121 S. Front St., Seaford. These groups provide education and support to patients before and after their bariatric weight loss surgery and are open to the public. Meetings consist of guest speakers and presentations to provide information about nutrition, supplements, exercise and behavior modifications. Patients and their spouses, family members or friends are welcome to attend. Registration is not required. The general bariatric support group is open to all bariatric patients before and after their surgery and is held monthly the first Monday from 5:30 to 6:30 p.m. and the fourth Monday from 6 to 7 p.m. The post-op bariatric support group is designed for post-op bariatric patients and is held on the second Tuesday of each month from 6 to 7 p.m. For more information about these support groups or other services provided by Nanticoke Weight Loss & General Surgery, visit www.nanticokeweightloss.org or call 302-536-5395.
Stroke caregiver support group Nanticoke Rehabilitation Services will host a stroke caregiver support group on Thursday, Aug. 9 from 1 to 2 p.m. at the Seaford Library and Cultural Center. This free support group is designed for caregivers of individuals who have survived a stroke. The group allows stroke caregivers to meet in groups to discuss concerns, providing support and networking in order to make daily routines easier. Pre-registration is not required and refreshments will be provided. For more information, call Nanticoke Rehabilitation Services at 302-629-6224.
Free weight loss seminars Nanticoke Weight Loss & General Surgery will host free weight loss seminars on Wednesday, Aug. 8 and Monday, Aug. 13 at 5:30 p.m. and Saturday, Aug. 25 at 10:30 a.m. at the Nanticoke Training Center in Seaford. These seminars are designed to provide education to individuals considering weight loss surgery to help them make informed decisions on whether surgery is an appropriate option. The seminars will consist of educational presentations by Dr. Tarek Waked to inform individuals about the many benefits of weight loss surgery. Patients and their spouses, family members or friends are welcome to attend. Registration is required. To register for one of these free seminars, call 302-536-5395.
Diabetes support group Nanticoke Memorial Hospital hosts free diabetes support groups on Mondays four times a year from 5 to 6 p.m., in the Medical Staff Conference Room. Pre-registration is required. 2018 schedule-Sept. 17 - "Move with Jonathan" with Jonathan Souder, MS, fitness director, Manor House For more information or to register, contact Nanticoke's Diabetes Education department at 629-6611, ext. 2288.