Thursday, January 30, 2014
It is important to leave a legacy

By Dr. Anthony Policastro

There is an old saying that a man dies twice. The first time is his physical death. The second time is when the last person who remembers him dies. Stephen Covey is the author of The Seven Habits of Highly Effective People. In his book, he discusses the four roles of men which are to live, to love, to learn and to leave a legacy. Leaving a legacy is one way to have people remember someone. It goes with the idea about increasing the number of people who remember you. There are many ways to leave a legacy. You might donate to a charity and have something named after you. You might leave a fortune to your heirs. However, the way to make an impact on the largest number of people is to be a full participant in your community. That is what both the old saying and Stephen Covey are trying to say. There is another old idea that goes something to the effect that societies truly advance when old men build houses that they will never live in. The point is that we need to look at what is happening around us. We do not live in a vacuum. Only by recognizing our role and how it impacts the future can we truly make sure that we are part of a legacy that will regenerate itself over time. One example is the concept of supporting education. Our society is dependent upon our children and their children carrying it on. One way that they learn how to do this is through our schools. Another important way is through watching the adults around them. That is mostly true of their parents. It is also true of other adults with whom they have contact. Thus, we have three roles in educating our youth. The most important role is that of a parent. Our children learn from us every day. We need to show them how we should act. We need to teach them things that will be necessary for use in later life. We need to be involved with their formal education. A school teacher is important in a childs life, but a teacher can only do what the parents support outside of school hours.

The second role is to realize that we frequently come in contact with young people. They learn from our example. We need to make sure that the example we give is the right kind.

  • It might involve showing them generosity.
  • It might involve not getting angry at them over something that is typical childhood behavior (think about the crying baby in a public place).
  • It might involve teaching them in a Sunday school setting. In any case, there are many opportunities that we have for this role.

The third role is to support formal education. That might mean attending local school performances to show support for our youth.

  • It might involve participating in fundraisers to support educational activities.
  • It might involve the recognition that our tax money supports education. We need to be generous with that support.
We all need to leave a legacy. It will help keep our memory alive. One of the best ways of doing that is to support our childrens education. It will help our form of society survive long into the future. There is no better legacy than that.

Family Support Center to discuss Shame: The Toxic Belief You are Unworthy, Unlovable or Flawed Delaware Hospices Family Support Center will hold a Lunch Bunch Lecture on Friday, Feb. 7, where Dr. Judy Pierson, clinical psychologist, will discuss Shame: The Toxic Belief You are Unworthy, Unlovable or Flawed, at the Delaware Hospice Center, 100 Patriots Way, Milford, from noon to 1:30 p.m. Shame is the belief that one is inherently flawed, unlovable and unworthy. Generally rooted in early childhood experiences, this belief is often contrasted with guilt. Guilt is feeling badly about ones actions.  Shame is feeling bad about ones very being, ones sense of self. Its not my actions were bad its Im bad. Guilt allows us to change our behavior. Shame takes us more deeply into feelings of worthlessness or despair and is generally immobilizing.   We are not always conscious of our feelings of shame. Shame is actually most visible in the attempts we make to avoid it. For example, the person who feels they must be perfect is likely compensating for a deep fear they have an imperfection that would discount all they have accomplished if revealed. Even the most successful in life live in fear of being exposed as an imposter. They worry others might discover the sometimes inadequate or frightened parts of themselves they hide behind their mask of competence.  Many of us avoid situations where we feel vulnerable, such as letting others get close.  We long for connection but are frightened that those who get too close will see that which we criticize harshly within ourselves. We may also avoid taking personal and professional risks because we believe a failure would reflect on our inherent worth and competence. It is hard to accomplish things in life if you cant try new things and learn from your mistakes. Others try to avoid their feelings of shame by attacking others and trying to make them feel inadequate.   Shame is a toxic painful emotion that haunts many. It leads to self-limiting life choices, self-destructive behaviors, and excessive self-criticism. In this workshop we will explore the roots of shame, but more importantly, outline strategies and techniques for overcoming shame. Registration is required as seating capacity is limited, and the cost of lunch is $5 per person. Register by Wednesday, Feb. 5, by contacting Michele August at 302-856-7717 or 302-478-5707 or email,

Cholesterol, glucose screenings Nanticoke Health Services will offer cholesterol and glucose screenings at three locations during the month of February. Screenings will be held on the following dates: Friday, Feb. 7 - Georgetown EZ Lab  505 W. Market St., Georgetown, 7 to 10 a.m. Friday, Feb. 14 - Seaford EZ Lab  Mears Health Campus, 200 Rawlins Dr., 7 to 10 a.m. Saturday, Feb. 22 - Laurel Health Fair, Laurel High School, 7 to 11 a.m. Cholesterol screenings require a 12-hour fasting and read the HDL, LDL and triglyceride blood levels. Cholesterol screening results will be mailed within 3 weeks along with information to evaluate the results. Screenings are free with a $10 donation appreciated. In addition to cholesterol and glucose screenings, free blood pressure checks will be offered. For more information, call 629-6611, ext. 8948. Pre-registration is not required.

Parkinson Support Group meeting The Parkinson Education and Support Group of Sussex County will hold its regularly scheduled monthly meeting at 2 p.m. on Monday, Feb. 3, in the McCurry Conference Room of the Tunnel Cancer Center Medical Arts Building on Rt. 24. Topics include demonstrations of small occupational  therapy techniques and yoga. The public is invited to attend. Contact Dennis Leebel, 302-644-3465, for more information.

Alzheimers caregiver support Laurel Adult Care will host an Alzheimers Association Caregiver Support Group that meets the third Thursday of each month at 1 p.m. Jamie Magee, program coordinator for the Alzheimers Association Delaware Valley Chapter, will be the guest speaker at the next meeting on Thursday, Feb. 20, at 1 p.m. Join us for a discussion of Alzheimers and other dementias at 113 N. Central Ave., Laurel. All meetings are free and open to the public. RSVP to Robbin Lecates at 875-2301 or Jamie Magee at 854-9788 or email

Nanticoke welcomes nurse practitioner Nanticoke Health Services welcomes Valerie Harrison, FNP to the Nanticoke Physician Network. She joins Nanticoke Immediate Care in Seaford. Harrison received her bachelor of science in nursing, master of science in nursing, and post masters degree, family nurse practitioner at Wilmington University in Delaware. She started her nursing career at Kent and Queen Annes Hospital in 1999 and has worked at other organizations including Shore Nursing and Rehab, Salisbury University, Nanticoke Memorial Hospital, Peninsula Regional Medical Center, Delaware Technical Community College, Compassionate Care Hospice, and Fellowship Health Resources. Harrison has various professional affiliations including Woodbridge Med Tech board member, Delaware Board of Nursing Practice Education committee member, Sigma Theta Tau member, and Student Nurse Association advisor. For more information about Nanticoke Immediate Care in Seaford or Georgetown, visit

Atkinson joins Nanticoke Health Nanticoke Health Services welcomes Bobbi Atkinson, CRNP-F to the Nanticoke Physician Network. Atkinson joins Dr. Padilla at Nanticoke Center for Diabetes and Endocrinology. Atkinson received her bachelor of science in nursing at Villa Julie College in Stevenson, Md. and master of science in nursing at Wilmington University in Wilmington. Atkinson started her nursing career at Shore Health System Cambridge and Easton locations in 1988 and has worked at other organizations including Delmarva Pain Associates and Planned Parenthood, both in Salisbury, Md. She is a member of the professional organization, Sigma Theta Tau.

Manor House hosts program Methodist Manor House will host an Alzheimers Association Program, Memory Loss, Dementia and Alzheimers  The Basics, on Thursday, Feb. 6, at 1001 Middleford Rd., Seaford. Jamie Magee, program coordinator, Alzheimers Association Delaware Valley Chapter, will present the program at 7:15 p.m. followed by a question and answer period. The program is free and open to the public. RSVP to Jamie Magee at 854-9788 or email

Hospice offers grief support group A six-week support group for adults on Healing after the Loss of a Loved One will be offered by Delaware Hospice on Tuesday afternoons, from 1 to 2:30, Feb. 11 through March 18, at the Delaware Hospice Office, Millsboro. The support group is open to anyone in the community. The group will provide grief education, support, and address individual needs including dealing with a multitude of diverse emotions, normalizing your grief, and coping with the impact of the loss on you, your family and friends. Register by Friday, Feb. 7, by contacting Carol Dobson, MSW, at 856-7717, ext. 4120 or

Beebe holds 2014 Health Fair Beebe Healthcare invites the community to its 2014 Health Fair on Saturday, Feb. 8, from 9 a.m. to 3 p.m., at the Rehoboth Beach Convention Center. This free event, designed to promote healthy living for all ages, offers a variety of screenings, cooking demonstrations, educational materials and giveaways, a raffle, kids activities, light refreshments, and entertainment. There also will be presentations by local physicians and flu vaccinations. For more information, call Beebe Healthcares Population Health Department at 302-645-3337. In case of inclement weather, check WBOC-TV, or radio stations 95.3 FM or 104.7 FM.