Thursday, February 21, 2013
Good parenting is a full-time job

By Dr. Anthony Policastro
My children were all born in the 1970's. At that time women were entering the work force in larger numbers than they had in the past. My wife was a typical Italian mother even though she was not Italian. She stayed at home and raised the children. I would often get asked if my wife worked. My answer was always "yes" because raising children is a full-time job. In the intervening years our society has changed. We now have more mothers with two full-time jobs. One of those is in the workplace and the other is at home. It is also important for fathers to realize that fatherhood is a full-time job. Like any other full-time job, it requires an investment in several areas. The most important area is time. One of the things that I have noticed over the years is the response I get from children when I ask them what they would like to have as a reward for good behavior. An answer that I frequently get is that they would like to do something with their parents. That might be a game, a trip or an activity. It is their way of saying that they do indeed appreciate time that their parents spend with them. Some activities do not fit that description. Watching TV together is not really spending time. Dinner conversation at home is often limited. People tend to eat and leave. That does not happen if the family goes out to dinner. It makes for more conversation than at home. One of the things that I see in the office is the tendency for parents to look for quick fixes. They might want the single piece of advice that will improve their child's behavior. They might want a pill to do likewise. However, nothing takes the place of quality time with the child. It is an investment with great long term dividends. A second area of investment is training. All jobs require training of some sort. The same thing is true of being a parent. When a couple gets pregnant, they do not suddenly know how to be a parent. They need to seek advice from others and read about parenting skills. They need to get trained to do the job right. Unfortunately, becoming a parent often comes with on the job training. You learn as you go along. However, as is the case with that kind of learning, it is associated with errors. Those might be prevented with better training. The bottom line is that it takes a lot of effort to be a good parent. It takes time and it takes training. It doesn't just happen. It is a full-time job. The more parents realize that fact, the better they will be at it.

Gorgui named medical director Khalil F. Gorgui, MD, has recently been named to the position of medical director of the Nanticoke Wound Care and Hyperbaric Center. Dr. Gorgui, an internal medicine physician who specializes in hyperbaric and wound management, brings with him broad experience in wound care, hyperbaric oxygen therapy, and internal medicine. Dr. Gorgui is board certified in internal medicine and has been a senior member of the medical staff at Nanticoke Memorial Hospital since 1995. He completed his residency at Englewood Hospital and Medical Center in Englewood, N.J., an affiliate with Mount Sinai School of Medicine. He is credentialed in wound care management and hyperbaric medicine. At Nanticoke's Wound Care and Hyperbaric Center, a specialty-trained team is available to manage all types of wounds as early and efficiently as possible. A physician has the option to call the center for an appointment for his or her patients, or patients may call the center directly at 628-8322.

Miss First State chooses platform Kaitlin Repella, a local Delaware teen who was crowned Miss First State in December 2012 is using her newfound fame to spread the mission of the American Lung Association in Delaware and bring awareness of the dangerous effects of secondhand smoke. Repella chose the American Lung Association in Delaware as her platform for the competition because her grandfather passed away from lung cancer. Repella, a student at Delaware Tech, hopes to participate in the Miss Delaware competition this June.

Creative Couture Fashion & Art Show The Auxiliary of Bayhealth Milford Memorial Hospital invites you to a Creative Couture Fashion & Art Show on Thursday, March 21, at Abbott's Grill in Milford. The event opens at 11:30 a.m. with a Meet the Artists reception, featuring various artists from the Mispillion Art League of Milford. Each artist is donating a small work which will be placed on each table and taken home by a lucky person seated at the table. Cards by each of the artists will also be available for sale, and three artists will be offering to do commission work. The boutiques Coolspring Cottage of Coolspring, Twilla's of Lewes and Jane and Georgie of Rehoboth will have models for the fashion show. Tickets for a 50/50 raffle will be for sale, as well as drawings for a $50.00 gift certificate to Abbott's Grill and a $150 gift certificate from Jane and Georgie. Abbott's Grill will offer a buffet lunch at noon for all to enjoy. Cost is $35 per person. Tickets may be purchased at Reflections Gift Shop at Milford Memorial, through any member of the Milford Memorial Hospital Auxiliary Board or by calling Cynthia Jones at 270-1842. All proceeds benefit Bayhealth Milford Memorial.

2013 Walk MS dates The Delaware Chapter of the National Multiple Sclerosis Society has announced the 2013 Walk MS dates and is inviting all Delawareans to join the movement. Each year thousands of loved ones, friends, and neighbors throughout Delaware – from Wilmington's Riverfront to Sussex County's Baywood Greens – lace up and step out in solidarity, with hopes of creating a world free of MS.

Last year, over a quarter million dollars was raised to help out the 1,550 Delawareans living with multiple sclerosis. The Twilight at Heritage Shores walk in Bridgeville will be held on May 31 and the walk at Baywood Greens will be held on June 7. To register, visit or call 302-655-5610.

End-of-Life Coalition awards dinner Rita Landgraf, secretary of the Delaware Department of Health and Social Services, will be the keynote speaker at the Delaware End-of-Life Coalition's 5th Annual Excellence Awards Dinner on Thursday, March 21. This event honors the outstanding professionals throughout the state who make a significant difference in the care of individuals dealing with end-of-life issues. The dinner costs $65 and will be held at the Deerfield Country Club, Newark. These awards recognize physicians, nurses, certified nurse assistants, counseling professionals and community organizations for their significant contributions to the betterment of patients and their families at the end-of-life. Sponsorship packages are available and nominations are still being accepted, visit Plan to attend the celebration and meet Crystal Rush, Miss Delaware International. To register visit

Alzheimer's Caregiver Support Group Cadia Rehab Renaissance near Millsboro is hosting and facilitating an Alzheimer's Association Caregiver Support Group that meets the fourth Tuesday of each month at 6 p.m. beginning Feb. 26. All meetings are open to the public and interested parties are invited to attend. Alzheimer's disease is the sixth leading cause of death in the United States. One person out of eight who reaches the age of 65 will develop Alzheimer's, as will one person out of every two who reaches the age of 85.

CPR classes offered Nanticoke Memorial Hospital will offer community CPR classes to anyone interested in learning CPR at the Nanticoke Training Center located on Water Street in Seaford. Participants will learn how to perform the basic skills of CPR on adults, children, and infants and how to help an adult, child, or infant who is choking and use of the AED. This classroom-based, video, and instructor-led CPR course offers families, friends, and community members the opportunity to learn CPR and receive a course completion card. Classes are open to participants ages 12 and up. The target audience is those who have a duty to respond to a cardiac emergency because of job responsibilities or regulatory requirements. Cost is $45. Payment and registration is required by no later than five business days prior to the class. Late registrations may be accepted if seating is available. To register and obtain a listing of class dates/times, contact the Nanticoke Memorial Hospital's Training Center office at 629-6611, ext. 8919. Pre-registration is required.

Walk for Autism is April 20 As a statewide agency whose mission is to create better lives for people with autism, Autism Delaware is expanding to provide the range of services needed by all Delawareans living with autism spectrum disorders over their lifespans. To this end, the nonprofit agency relies on volunteers, donations, and fundraising. "Our next big fundraiser in southern Delaware is Walk for Autism on April 20 at Cape Henlopen State Park," says Lisa Albany, the committee chair. "Our goal is to raise as much as possible to provide services through Autism Delaware that benefit individuals with autism spectrum disorders. We need volunteers to help run the event plus business and corporate leaders to sponsor it." "The need for autism services and support is rising rapidly," adds Autism Delaware Executive Director Teresa Avery. "The CDC now says that one in 88 children is identified with an autism spectrum disorder. In 1991, the Delaware Department of Education reported 152 public school students with autism – and 982 in 2010. That's a 546 percent increase over 19 years. For more information, visit

Parkinson's support group meeting The Nanticoke Parkinson's Education and Support Group will hold its regularly scheduled monthly meeting on the third Monday of each month, from 10 to 11:30 a.m in the ballroom at the Nanticoke Senior Center. The public is welcome to attend the meeting and stay for lunch and a social time after the meeting.

HIV/AIDS Support Group A new support group for HIV/AIDS will meet every other Wednesday, at 7 p.m., in the Branford Lounge at Epworth UMC at 19285 Holland Glade Rd., Rehoboth Beach. The group is sponsored by Epworth UMC, CAMP Rehoboth, the AIDs Delaware and Delaware HIV Consortium. For more information, contact David at

Program seeks mentors The Delaware Kids Connection Mentoring Program seeks mentors for students at Laurel Intermediate and Middle School, Seaford Middle School and the DAPI School for pregnant teens. Last year mentees raised their GPA's by 11% and mentors spent over 1,100 hours with their mentees during the year. To mentor, fill out an application online or in person, go to a training session and complete a background check. Potential mentors should contact the Delaware Adolescent Program, Inc. (DAPI) at our Stockley Campus 302-297-0370, ext. 17 to talk to Glenn Phillips Sr. or, e-mail for more information.