Thursday, July 14, 2011
Time is a precious commodity, spend some of it with your family By Dr. Anthony Policastro

We know that people do not budget their money very well. We will frequently look at someone who has little money and wonder why they buy the things that they can't afford. Money is not the only thing that we need to budget wisely. Time is another commodity. We waste time every day. There is an old song called "The Cat's in the Cradle." The first part of the song talks about the father who never has time for his son. The last part talks about the grown up son who never has time for his father. The father realizes too late that his son is just like him. There are not that many minutes of the day. We need to see that we do not waste those minutes on unimportant things. We need to take time with our spouse and our children. That time needs to be a chance to talk to each other. That does not mean we watch the same TV shows together or watch our children play a team sport. It means that we spend time communicating. There are opportunities to do this every day. The best opportunity is during meal time which is why the evening meal should include every family member, with the TV off and no video games. With all the activities that children are involved in, the evening meal is sometimes not possible. However, that should be the exception and not the rule. One of the reasons I recommend eating out (in a non-fast food restaurant) is that it provides a chance for the family to sit and talk. It might be well worth the expense for the family to actually sit and have a conversation. Everyone will have to wait for the order to be taken, the food to be prepared and everyone to finish eating. All of this provides conversation time. One of the things I used to actually prescribe in my office was an hour of family board games every night. This again put families into a speaking situation. While you were involved in the game, there was time to talk. Currently board games have become a thing of the past. If it is not electronic, then it is not a game. There are some things to be said for the old way of doing things. One of the things I wrote about in the past was the rule of six. That was taking time to praise your child at least six times a day. This is another method of making sure that time is well spent. There is a need to budget time for your family. If you do not do so, then life events will just move you away from communication. It takes a conscious effort. The improved communication will be well worth that effort.

Crab feast to support BIAD The Brain Injury Association of Delaware (BIAD) is hosting its fourth annual Crab Feast Fundraiser on Saturday,Aug. 6, from 4 to 8 p.m. at the New Leipsic Fire Hall located at 318 Main St., Dover. The menu includes all you can eat crabs, corn on the cob, chicken tenders, hush puppies, french fries and non-alcoholic beverages (a cash bar will be available). Cost is $30 per person and $7 for kids ages 5 to 12. Enjoy live entertainment, a DJ and assorted raffles. Buy tickets online at or call 800-411-0505 for more information. BIAD is the only charity of its kind in the state, and provides services within Delaware and parts of the Maryland. Funds raised for the Brain Injury Association of Delaware (BIAD), a nonprofit group, are used to further its mission to create a better future through brain injury prevention, research, education, and advocacy. To learn more about brain injury, visit or call 1-800-411-0505.

Opthamologist to speak Dr. Leslie Emmert-Buck of Midshore Surgical Eye Center of Easton and Cambridge will speak Thursday, July 21 at 7 p.m., about glaucoma, a condition common to many, and how it can be successfully treated. Dr. Emmert-Buck will speak as part of Homestead Assisted Living's Physicians Speakers Bureau. Emmert-Buck practices general ophthalmology and is a fellowship-trained cornea specialist, as well as a member of the American Medical Association, American Society of Cataract and Refractive Surgeons, and a fellow of the American Academy of Ophthalmology. At Midshore Surgical Eye Center she performs cataract surgery, cornea surgery including DSEK (Descemet's stripping with endothelial keratoplasty) and refractive surgery (LASIK).

A board certified ophthalmologist and cornea specialist, Emmert-Buck joined MidShore Surgical Eye Center in 2004 after completing a combined MD/PhD program at the University of Maryland School of Medicine in Baltimore. The public is invited and light refreshments will be served. Homestead Manor is located at 410 Colonial Dr., in Denton, Md. To RSVP, or to schedule a free tour or for more information, call 410-479-CARE.

Rose appointed to regional board Steven A. Rose, president and CEO of Nanticoke Health Services, Seaford, was appointed to the Regional Policy Board 3 of the American Hospital Association (AHA). Regional 3 includes Delaware, Maryland, Virginia, West Virginia, North Carolina, Kentucky and Washington, D.C. The AHA board is the policy-making body of the AHA, with authority for the governance and management of its direction and finances. "Being involved in establishing policy for AHA and representing Delaware is an honor that provides me the opportunity to ensure that safe, quality healthcare is maintained across the United States," said Rose.

Community CPR class is offered Nanticoke Memorial Hospital will offer community CPR classes to anyone interested in learning CPR at the Nanticoke Training Center located on Water Street in Seaford.Participants will learn how to perform the basic skills of CPR on adults, children, and infants and how to help an adult, child or infant who is choking and use of the AED. This classroom-based, video and instructor-led CPR course offers families, friendsand community members the opportunity to learn CPR and need a course completion card. Classes are open to participants 12-years-old and up. This program is specifically designed for those who prefer to learn in a group environment with feedback from an instructor. The target audience is those who have a duty to respond to a cardiac emergency because of job responsibilities or regulatory requirements. Cost is $40. Payment and registration is required by no later than five business days prior to the class. Late registrations may be accepted if seating is available. To register and obtain a listing of class dates/times, contact Nanticoke Memorial Hospital's Training Center office at 629-6611, ext. 8919. Pre-registration is required.

NMH offers Stroke Support Group Nanticoke Memorial Hospital's next Stroke Support Group meeting is at 1:30 p.m. on Tuesday, July 19, at the Seaford Library. The support group is designed for individuals who have survived a stroke as well as their families and caregivers. The two-hour support group meetings will consist of guest speakers and breakaway sessions, in which caregivers and stroke survivors will meet in two groups to discuss concerns, provide support, and allow for networking. Refreshments will be provided. Pre-registration is not required for this free support group. For more information, contact Nanticoke Memorial Hospital at 629-6611, ext. 8626.

Bereavement luncheons Delaware Hospice's "New Beginnings" bereavement luncheons are an informal way to meet and talk with others, who have had similar loss experiences. Lunch begins at noon and is followed by a brief program. The location rotates each week of the month according to this schedule:
  • 1st Thursday: Grottos Pizza, Rt. 26, Bethany Beach;
  • 2nd Thursday: Georgia House, 300 Delaware Ave., Laurel;
  • 3rd Thursday: Millsboro Pizza Palace, Rt. 113-southbound lane, Millsboro;
  • 4th Thursday: Blue Ocean Grill (formerly Milton House), 200 Broadkill Rd., Milton;
  • 5th Thursday (when applicable): Texas Grill (formerly Ocean Point Grill), 26089 Long Neck Rd., Millsboro.
"New Beginnings" luncheons are open to the public. Registration is not required. There is no fee except the cost of your lunch. For more information, call Carol Dobson or Paul Ganster at 856-7717.