Thursday, May 26, 2011
Are you in control of your kids?

By Dr. Anthony Policastro

There are a lot of fads that come and go. Most of them are relatively innocent. An example is the Silly Bandz craze that swept through the elementary schools last year. A newer fad is related to a wrist band in the middle school boy population. The wrist band was originally created to support breast cancer awareness. It has the statement "I Love Boobies" on it. I have seen several of them in the office. There are several interesting things about them. The first is that the boys all try to claim that they are supporting breast cancer awareness. They have been trained in what to say. However, they care nothing about breast cancer awareness and are just being pre-adolescent males. The second is that some of the parents agree that their sons are supporting breast cancer awareness. They also might be interested in buying a bridge in Brooklyn. If they believe that particular line, then they can bet it is not the only line their child is going to use on them. The third issue is that most of them do not think this is inappropriate. My grandson is in the sixth grade in South Carolina and they have banned the wrist bands from school. My daughter teaches in a middle school in New Jersey. They have also banned the wrist bands from the schools. However, it is not the place of the school to take this kind of action. This is squarely in the province of the parents. They need to be teaching their children what is appropriate. Wearing something that is sexually suggestive is not appropriate. Parents need to be sure that they are the ones telling their children that. Unfortunately, there are multiple instances of parents allowing inappropriate behavior. Parents should be in control. I had a parent complain recently that the 16-year-old is out in the car past curfew on a regular basis. I could solve that problem easily. The car keys would be gone until the lesson was learned. There are some parents who allow adolescents to drink alcohol at parties that they supervise. There are others who buy alcohol for adolescents. They clearly are not very smart. Parents have a responsibility to make their stance very clear. That is true if it is related to something small like wrist bands or more significant like alcohol. Being a parent means a lot more than just having a child. It means clothing that child, feeding that child and providing shelter for that child. Above all, it means loving that child. Making sure that each child learns appropriate behavior is an important part of parenting. That means paying attention to all aspects of what a child does.

Drug discount cards save residents Goodwill of Delaware and Delaware County has saved holders of the Goodwill Prescription Savings Card over $70,000 in healthcare costs since the inception of the partnership with Free For All, Inc., in 2009. "Every time one of the card holders earns a discount on their medication costs, we earn a per transaction fee that benefits our scholarship fund," said Ted Van Name, president and CEO for Goodwill of Delaware and Delaware County. The free discount cards are available at any of Goodwill's retail stores. More information about the program can be found at Free For All, Inc., through its free prescription savings program, provides discounts of up to 75 percent on prescriptions and up to 50 percent on labs and imaging services.

NAR-ANON support group Take Heart, Be Strong is a support group available to family members and friends who are concerned about the drug/alcohol addiction of a loved one. People in NAR-ANON understand what we are going through and are ready to share their experience, strength and hope to help. This group meets every Thursday at 7 p.m. in the Youth Room at Crossroad Community Church, 20684 State Forest Rd., Georgetown. If you are interested or know someone who might be, call Beth at 745-0466. This is an anonymous program and there are no obligations. Attendance is welcome with no prior arrangements.

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Annual Cancer Survivors event National Cancer Survivors Day (NCSD) is Sunday, June 5. This 24th annual, worldwide celebration of life will be held in hundreds of communities throughout the United States, Canada and other participating countries. Cancer survivors, caregivers, family members, friends and healthcare professionals unite to show that life after a cancer diagnosis can be meaningful and productive. In honor of NCSD, the Nanticoke Cancer Care Center is hosting a luncheon from 1 to 3 p.m. on June 5, at the Seaford Moose Lodge. Guest speaker will be Lon Kieffer, also known as DOC the "Defender of Caregivers," and musical entertainment will be provided by Brittney Slavens. "Come learn how surviving cancer is an attitude about life and living each day to the fullest," says Terri Clifton, NCSD coordinator for the Nanticoke Cancer Care Center. "You will find our community's NCSD event filled with joy, camaraderie, hope, compassion, faith and love as we honor cancer survivors for their strength and courage. We will also recognize the contributions of their families, friends and healthcare providers and discuss the issues of cancer survivorship." Door prizes will be given throughout the afternoon and all survivors will receive a gift. Anyone living with a history of cancer, from the moment of diagnosis through the remainder of life, is a cancer survivor, according to the NCSD Foundation. Over 11 million Americans are now living with and beyond a diagnosis of cancer. In the United States, almost half of all men and one third of all women are expected to be diagnosed with cancer at some point in their lives. Learning about this disease is crucial, because many forms of cancer can be prevented and most cured if detected early. "Despite the adversities, cancer survivors face each day with courage and dignity and serve as an inspiration to all of us," said Terri Clifton. To RSVP, call 629-6611, ext. 2378.

Bereavement luncheons Delaware Hospice's "New Beginnings" bereavement luncheons are an informal way to meet and talk with others, who have had similar loss experiences. Lunch begins at noon and is followed by a brief program. The location rotates each week of the month according to this schedule:
  • 1st Thursday: Grottos Pizza, Rt. 26, Bethany Beach;
  • 2nd Thursday: Georgia House, 300 Delaware Ave., Laurel;
  • 3rd Thursday: Millsboro Pizza Palace, Rt. 113-southbound lane, Millsboro;
  • 4th Thursday: Blue Ocean Grill (formerly Milton House), 200 Broadkill Rd., Milton;
  • 5th Thursday (when applicable): Texas Grill (formerly Ocean Point Grill), 26089 Long Neck Rd., Millsboro. "New Beginnings" luncheons are open to the public. Registration is not required.There is no fee except the cost of your lunch.
For more information, call Carol Dobson or Paul Ganster at 856-7717.

Breast cancer support group Delaware Breast Cancer Coalition, Inc. (DBCC) has expanded its Beginning Your Pink Ribbon Journey, a program for women newly-diagnosed with breast cancer, by partnering with Nanticoke Memorial Hospital Cancer Center in Seaford. The free, monthly program is offered at the Cancer Center located at 801 Middleford Road, Seaford, the third Thursday of each month from 3 to 4 p.m. Of particular value to newly-diagnosed women is DBCC's Peer Mentor Program through which they are paired with a long-term survivor for one-on-one support. To learn more about Beginning Your Pink Ribbon Journey at Nanticoke Memorial Hospital Cancer Center, call Lois Wilkinson at 672-6435. Registration is required and light refreshments and small gifts are provided.